Monday, October 02, 2006

Superior Maturity and Behavior

Today I went to the mailbox and found a progress report from my kids’ high school. My kids live with their mom rather than with gawilli and me. One is in college and the other two are in high school, freshman and junior.

My daughter’s progress report was a good one –A’s and B’s in subjects such as: English, Spanish, Algebra I, Biology, Foods and Health. The computerized report has a comment code or “personal development marks” as they are called.

X = Indicates Superior Maturity and Behavior
Y = Indicates Normal Maturity and Behavior
Z = Indicates Improvement is Needed

I understand the behavior part of this indication, but I always question when educators make judgments about maturity. I mean, I have an important job; I manage my money pretty well and take care of my house and home (terminology courtesy of Bob Dylan).

“What kind of house is this,” he said,
“Where I have come to roam?”
“It’s not a house,” said Judas Priest,
“It’s not a house….. it’s a home.”
-The Ballad of Frankie Lee and Judas Priest
from John Wesley Harding

I would consider it all of the above, except maybe the Dylan quote, to be a sign of maturity for a fifty year old male. But, if you factor in that I always crack a little smile and sneak a little laugh when I let a fart in the presence of gawilli, usually followed by some comment on its musical quality such as tone or sustain, that would definitely be immaturity.

So I figure maturity and immaturity is pretty much a judgment call. For that matter behavior is too, but it is a lot easier to understand.

My daughter had a Y which equals normal maturity and behavior in every class but one. In that class she had an X indicating superior maturity and behavior. Now if you read about Brisket Fest you know that around our house and home we love to cook and eat. When the kids come it is always a time for “breaking bread”. My daughter loves to join us in the kitchen and help with the preparation.

So in which class did she demonstrate superior maturity and behavior? That’s right, Foods. Of course I will have to remind her not to include any of her father’s nutritional wisdom in a short answer question. I don’t think her teacher would like reading “fat is where is at.”



Blogger Jay said...

Is there a grade below "Z" for maturity? Cause I'm pretty sure a lot of my teachers would have given me that.

But, as for these "maturity" grades. What if the person doing the grading doesn't really show "normal maturity and behavior"?

11:37 PM  
Blogger gawilli said...

Mary is a joy. I'm not at all surprised that she indicates superior maturity and behavior. You would never know that she is the youngest rather than the oldest. She can really throw the pizza dough. She takes after her father...and that's a good thing.

Now. As for that tone and sustain...

11:39 PM  
Blogger katy said...

glad they dont grade us on maturity over here! its like this some days i am mature and most days, hey life is short lets have a laugh!
well done her on her grades you must be proud

1:49 PM  
Blogger willi said...

Her Indoors: Thanks. I am proud of those grades. Also proud that she loves to be a part of family cooking.

Jay: When I was teaching I never had much trouble with being considered "normal maturity and behavior". But I'm good faker!

9:24 PM  
Blogger Freakazojd said...

I think mature folks are permitted to enjoy a few fart jokes and appreciate a well-honed ripper here and there. At least I hope so. Heh.

3:12 PM  
Blogger daddy d said...

I used to consider attitude as 1/3 of my grading procedure. The other 2/3 were home work and test points. But the attitude part was my thoughts as to working on task and other actions that were not so hard press as the right or wrong answer. However, I was told that that was not allowed because it was not academic. Subjectivity was just not allowed. However, that kind of stuff does matter.

5:13 PM  
Blogger willi said...

daddy d: Attitude does matter. There is room for subjectivity. Sometimes the immature even exhibit positive attitude and good work ethic. Perhaps it should be attitude and behavior.

Freakazojd: Thanks for permission to enjoy a good "passing of the gas" without being judged immature.

10:37 PM  
Blogger Molly said...

As the youngest of three daughters, I have several thoughts on maturity, and these thoughts or opinions have evolved. Growing up I was sure that in adulthood, I would always make right decisions and never cry. Strangely, I thought that this maturity would somehow magically transpire on my wedding day. As many years passed after my wedding day, I learned that this "no more tears and always perfect decisions" viewpoint must be wrong.

Furthermore, I frequently see adults throw fits of rage, act irresponsilbly, make horrific decisions, and treat people badly. On the other hand, I see children on a daily basis have a calm demeanor, act responsibly, make sound decisions, and treat people with compassion. Although experience may make us more mature, I think that maturity and (good behavior) is not always related to age.

10:05 PM  

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